Conflict can be connection.
We need to fight better.
Conflict isn't the enemy. It can be an invitation to clarity, connection, and change. But, most of us haven’t been taught how to fight well. We’ve inherited patterns that lead us to feel overpowered or overwhelmed, in the exact moments when we need all our skills.
Here’s the truth: A fight is just a conversation stripped of options.
With the right tools, conflict stops being a battleground and becomes a space for transformation. Our trainings give you those tools — drawn from psychology, negotiation, and even improv — to help you stay grounded, speak clearly, and navigate the messiest moments with purpose.
Don’t avoid conflict. Learn to fight better.
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Fight Lab
Practice the worst-case scenarios before they happen. In Fight Lab, we simulate difficult 1:1 or group conversations, and work through them together. You can witness, play, or workshop - just come and try it out!
We practice every Wednesday, online.
Free
The Art of Difficult Conversations On-Demand
Master the conversations you’ve been avoiding, for good. The Art of Difficult Conversations is a practical, research-backed course designed to help you speak with clarity, hold your ground, and stay connected when it matters most.
First Module Free
Courses
Do some conversations leave you angry, scared, or feeling helpless?
The ADC course is here to help you turn those tense moments into opportunities for connection and growth.
The course is available in both live and on-demand versions to help you handle conflict and foster trust.
Join us where breakthroughs happen in real time, and leave with tools to build stronger relationships, teams, and communities.
Fight Better, Together.
Mini-Courses
Navigating Challenging Relationships
Good boundaries can be the difference between shutting down and staying in when conversations get tough. Learn how to connect with those who aren’t so skilled at connection, how to stay centered when you experience a trigger, and how to practice top-notch self-care.
$67.00 USD
Coaching
Our Coaches
Geof Krum
I help visionary leaders turn chaotic teams into high-trust, high-retention cultures in 90 days or less.
I help couples in conflict turn recurring fights into breakthrough connection, without wasting years in therapy.
I help high-performing partners and constellations deepen intimacy, trust, and ease.
I help experience-driven event producers design unforgettable, emotionally resonant gatherings rooted in human-centered design.
I HELP PEOPLE HUMAN BETTER, TOGETHER.
Sara Ness
I help facilitators and coaches develop goal-oriented events that have participants feeling held, connected, and inspired from the beginning to the end.
I help community leaders create resilient, joyful groups that combine strong relationships with strong structure.
As a trained mediator, I help couples, teams, and co-founders resolve their toughest conflicts and move forward together (or separately).
I help human beings of all sorts get to the root of their triggers, and plan a better approach to difficult situations.
I PAVE THE PATH TO CONNECTION.
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Manuals
The ADC Manual
Accompanying text for the Art of Difficult Conversations course. This 70-page e-book helps you navigate conflict with anyone in your life. Inside, you’ll find meticulously researched interventions, practices to try, stories, and lots of memes.
$20.00 USD
Power Mapping Guide
Unlock the invisible dynamics of power in your relationships. With practical exercises and reflective questions, this guide gives you the tools to navigate power dynamics with confidence and insight.
Free
Fight Lab Playbook
Stop avoiding conflict — start using it. The Fight Lab Playbook offers practical exercises and reflective prompts to help you turn tension into growth. It also gives you a peek into our weekly free Fight Labs!
Free
Articles
Don't Fight About Your Feelings
by Sara Ness
Here’s how the average fight goes.
“You hurt me.” “You hurt me too!” “Let’s fight until we feel better.”
Perhaps you, too, will stare at the above and think there’s something wrong.
It’s a rare fight that makes you feel better, at least in the short term. If you do feel better it’s usually not because of the act of fighting, it’s because of being heard, or...
How to Get Anyone to Do Anything
by Sara Ness
When I was 20 years old, I catalyzed a worldwide movement of human connection. I have since trained the leaders of Fortune 50 companies such as Google and Dell to be more empathetic and authentic in their work, and held extended internal trainings for Mindvalley, Rebel Wisdom, and the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration. My work has been used by...
Consensual Nasty Communication
by Sara Ness
In the Authentic Relating community I emotionally grew up in, there were Good kinds of communication and Bad ones. Good communication was consensually negotiated, kind, curious, and slow. Bad communication was whatever our parents had done: usually fast, intense, and scary. Good communication was Safe; bad communication was Violent...
