Connect constantly consciously.
Who are you, really?
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We wear many faces to exist in the world. Our competent self, for work. Our supportive self, for our partners. OurĀ just-go-with-itĀ self, for our family. Our exhausted self, for ourselves.
Authenticity is in all these selves. But, as we change for others, it's easy to slip steadily out of alignment with life. We become less kind, less generous, less certain. The less connected we are with ourselves, the less we canĀ be thereĀ for others.
Authentic Relating practice is grounding for our souls. It's a relational meditation that allows us to come back into contact with what we really value and want. Through simple games and exercises, we practice self-expression, curiosity, and empathy, without the exhaustion ofĀ needing to "get it right".
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Authentic Living Membership
Subscribe to live your mostĀ AuthenticĀ life. This access pass includes the Authentic Relating Games Video Manual, the 4 Authentic Communication Essentials courses, and monthly online ARĀ Games Nights.
First Month Free
TheĀ Authentic Life Course
All the lessons included in theĀ Authentic Life Course live, available to learn at your own speed. Identify your authentic needs and values, set boundaries, shift social situations, and live your fullest life!
First Module Free
Online Courses
Authentic Relating: Practice and PlayĀ
This course is a romp through all our favorite Authentic Relating Games and flows, along with an exploration of the magic that makes them work.
Weāll play through AR Games flows around Curiosity, Presence, Shadow Work, and more - and throughout it all, weāll develop your ability to see these flows through a facilitator lens.Ā
Who itās for
- Connection enthusiasts who want to bypass the bullshit and get real right away
- Facilitators who want to be held in someone else's container, and experience games you may not have played
- Event designers who want new ideas for making even more effective, connective events.
Ā FallĀ 2025 US/EU
- ThursdaysĀ SeptemberĀ 4th to OctoberĀ 23rd
12-2 PM CT /Ā 7-9 PM CETĀ
FallĀ 2025 AS/US
- ThursdaysĀ SeptemberĀ 4th toĀ OctoberĀ 23rd 6-8 PM CT
- FridaysĀ SeptemberĀ 5th toĀ October 24thĀ 9-11 AM AET
Course includes a free copy of the Authentic Relating Games Manual!
Practice & Play Fall 2025 (Single Payment)
Video lessons and live weekly group sessions. Select your Cohort at checkout.
$240.00 USD
Practice & Play Fall 2025 (Payment Plan)
Video lessons and live weekly group sessions. Select your Cohort at checkout.
3 monthly payments of $80.00 USD
On-Demand Courses
The Authentic Life Course
We humans are wired for connection. But we often struggle to create it.
The ALC offers you field-tested tools and practices that have helped thousands of people navigate social anxiety, gain confidence, learn to set boundaries, and master essential emotional intelligence skills.
- Identify your values
- Find your voice
- Set boundaries
- Learn how othersĀ see you
- Have real conversations withĀ strangers, friends, partners, and family
...and beginĀ creating the fulfilling connections you desire.
Mini Courses
Authentic Life Course Self-Paced
All the lessons included in the Authentic Life Course, available to learn at your speed. Identify your authentic needs and values, set boundaries, shift social situations, and live your fullest life!
$147.00 USD
How to Find Your Authentic Self
What would happen if you were to show up in your life as the realest you possible? Get these lessons, videos, and downloadable resources to realize your authentic self. The possibilities are endless.
$47.00 USD
Deepening Conversations
Deep and connective conversations make our lives richer and more satisfying, but the skills required to get there take some practice. Dig into this tools-focused course and start finding greater fulfillment in conversations with close friends and strangers alike.
$77.00 USD
The Art of Making Requests
Your friendships, your dating life, your career, your relationship with your family, all of it will flourish when you can skillfully ask for what you want and need. And, getting a ānoā doesnāt have to feel so crushing when you understand how to stay in connection.
$57.00 USD
Community
Find a Community
There are dozens of Authentic Relating communities all over the world, where you can connect with folks in person for Games Nights, special events, and more.
UseĀ our map toĀ find your local Authentic Relating community.
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Manuals
Connection Games Mini-Manual
This free guide contains a sampling of exercises with the intention to increase presence, connection, play, and empathy in your life, groups, and relationships.
Free
AR Games for Deeper Dating
Games to play with your date, your partner, your lover, or your ball-and-chain.
$5.00 USD
Authentic Relating Aftercare
What are the core principles of AR, or the aftercare you need to integrate your experience? We've got it right here ā a guide on integration and deeper exploration into authenticity everyday.
Free
Relationship Survival Guide
Includes 7+ pages of great questions and games for your relationship, such as "The Google Game", "Empathy", "Touching Desire", and "If you really knew me, you would know..."
$10.00 USD
Onwards to Utopia: How to Create Intentional Living Communities
This eBook takes you on a journey across the country and across systems of thought, looking for the answers to how lasting, fulfilling community can be built.
$22.00 USD
The Art of Getting Someoneās World
We often think that we can only see from our own point of view. Practices like Circling make it possible to intuitively GET what someone else's world is like ā and to be transformed by that knowledge.
$15.00 USD
Articles & Inspiration
The Path to (Mostly) Effortless Connection
by Sara Ness
Last night, I was at a party that I really didnāt want to go to.
It wasnāt because the people were boring. No - they were fascinating. The venue was beautiful. The food was good.
I was just feeling antisocial, awkward, and tired. I didnāt want to be seen by anyone, let alone fascinating people who...
4 Tips for Keeping Your Friends
by Sara Ness
Tip 1: Choose Your Commitments
Letās imagine a math problem.
Jenny has two close friends, and Jeremy has five. Jenny wants to deepen her friendship with Jeremy, but Jeremy has commitments every night that he wants to be social. How long will Jenny and Jeremyās connection last?
The answer is...
What is Authenticity?
by Sara Ness
What does it mean to be authentic? Is authenticity total honesty in all your words and actions? Is it following your impulses, your emotions, or your beliefs? Is it integrity? Truth? Is it a popular word that writers use to get more hits on Google?
Iāve spent the past seven years teaching authentic connection. Iāve worked with thousands of students across multiple countries, and one constant issue participants run into is...Ā
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