Guides and links for individuals and leaders to enhance your Authentic Relating and Circling Skills.
Authentic Relating

Authentic Relating

What is AR?

Authentic Relating is a practice of self-awareness, self-expression, and empathy. We explore the effect of bringing our honesty more into every relationship, with tools to both check how our expression affects others and to bring out their more honest truth as well.

Authentic Relating Games were created to give you a playbook for how to begin relating on an authentic level. Playing these games helps build skills for any relationship: romantic partnerships, families, roommates, friends, community groups, teams, and clientele.

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Local Communities

Connect with awesome people through Authentic Relating events in your area. There are dozens of communities all over the world.

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Authentic Relating Games Manual

How we communicate shapes our world. Whether it's with ourselves, our friends, our romantic partners, or with coffeeshop strangers, our lives are held within an interpersonal play-space that we barely understand...until now! 

Authentic Relating Games are a collection of extensively tested, masterfully facilitated experiences that give players a hands-on taste of both the joy and skills of interpersonal connection. This manual contains over 150 Games and variations.  

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Online Connection Games

Is it possible to create profound connection with a screen between us, with groups of any size?

Absolutely! This guide contains 14 Authentic Relating Games specifically re-written for an online format, including instructions on what to put in chat and how to divide up breakout rooms. It also includes a bonus guide to technology and troubleshooting on Zoom.

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Relationship Survival Guide

Five steps and many suggestions for keeping a relationship strong, sexy, sneaky, and honest!  This guide  contains 7+ pages of great questions and games for your relationship, such as "The Google Game", "Empathy", "Touching Desire", and "If you really knew me, you would know..."

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Interesting Questions Guide

Conquer small talk with this collection of the best questions Sara Ness could find from the Authentic Relating and Facebook data mines.

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AR Life Practice

Authentic Life Course

The Authentic Life Course is a 7-week-long online course that will guide you through transforming any social situation or relationship into depth, connection, and authenticity.

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What is Circling?


Circling is a transformational communication practice that enhances self-awareness, creates connection, and teaches participants how to get their needs met AND help others thrive in the process.

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Circling Guide

Circling is a proven practice for working with self, other, and relationship from a place of honesty and regard.  This guide will show you how to use circling to improve your relationships.

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Build a life full of connection, belonging and intimacy. Join COnnect members from all over the world to engage in growth-oriented events that will inspire you, develop your communication skills, and nourish your soul.

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