What is Authentic Relating?
Authentic Relating (AR) is the practice of freely expressing your true experience in the company of others.
Expressing in this way enables you to create connections in the world based on who you really are.
Authentic Relating practices create a safe, intentional space - rooted in play and supported by clear boundaries - to create meaningful and enjoyable connections to self and other. By learning Authentic Relating skills, you can drop your conditioned relational habits, and learn to relate with yourself and others from a deeper more authentic expression of your truth.
This allows us to be more human with one another, in ways that often fall by the wayside in today's social norms.
The result is a life full of fulfilling and meaningful relationships.
Authentic Relating Games
Notice. Reveal. Share Impact.
Below are a few of our most basic Authentic Relating games. We invite you to find a group near you (or online) or simply dive in and try them out with someone in your life!
The Noticing Game
A begins: “Sitting/standing here with you, I notice…”
B responds, “Hearing that, I notice…”
Go back and forth: “Hearing that, I notice… Hearing that, I notice…” for 2-5 minutes.
Note: YOU CAN SHARE OBSERVATIONS, THOUGHTS, SENSATIONS, FEELINGS… You can share ANYTHING you’re noticing inside this structure of “A” and “B” going back and forth.
The Curiosity Game
At the end of the time, B get a chance to give a minute of feedback to A on how they felt about the questions, including if there was anything they wished had been asked or anything that really struck them. Then, A resumes questioning for 3 more minutes.
At the end of the time, A gives a gift to B of three sentence stems: “My first impression of you was. . .”, “I felt you the most when . . .”, and “What I really get about you is . . .”.
The Desire Game
Notes: Requests can be physical, mental, or emotional, for example: “Would you give me a back rub?” “Would you tell me what you think about me?” “Would you ask me questions about myself?”
Anyone can play Authentic Relating Games.
Authentic Relating Games allow us to be more human with one another. They are perfect for those interested in improving relational skills (for any context), communication skills, listening skills, or just seeking real, meaningful human connection.
Our collection of over 150 extensively tested experiences are uniquely designed to:
Highlight and train body awareness
Create deep connection
AR Games challenge you to listen and reflect in real time, to share your emotional state, to notice and reach into your desire, and to become self-aware within connection. From meditative depths of presence and ecstatic heights of joy, to somber melancholy and heart-pounding fun, AR Games guide us all the way through the human condition.
Playing these games help build skills for any relationship: dating, family, work, and most importantly, self! You will learn to be vulnerable and share real connections in a safe, authentic way.
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